Tuesday, August 27, 2013

A Little Cuddle Goes a Long Way


Proverbs 14:26-27
      Serving the LORD provides stability for children. What a simple lesson, and yet so rare a quality. It provides the most fundamental needs of children, and adults for that matter. There are many areas where this is true, but here several on which to focus.
      Our first proverb states that children will find a refuge created by their parents who fear the LORD. One of the most basic jobs of parents is to provide protection and safety for their children. This protection provides them with a secure base from which to operate. When they have this secure base they can venture into their world and explore. They do this because they know mom and dad will be there if they need them.
      Children with a secure base are less anxious than children who don’t have this security. They are able to play by themselves without clinging. They don’t act up when something disrupts their world. They don’t need to. Their parents are there to comfort them and meet their most basic emotional needs.
      The same thing holds true for adult relationships. When one spouse reaches for the other in times of distress and there is a loving, caring response, anxiety lowers and positive hormones are released. When they don’t respond the internal alarm bells start ringing and the distressed spouse becomes even more distressed. They go into the fight-flight-freeze response. Stress hormones are pumped into the system creating chaos.
      Our relationship with the LORD can provide this kind of secure base. When someone draws in close to Him our anxiety can drop, and the release of stress hormones slows down. We need people to give the hugs and touches that mitigate so many anxiety produced problems, but that is where the Church comes in. We can be those arms extended.
      When stress gets lowered there are physical benefits. Our high-stress culture contributes to our obesity problems. So if we get the stress under control it will go a long way toward mitigating the negative health affects. It can literally save our lives.
      So give someone a hug today. Help lower their stress.