Friday, November 29, 2013

Train Wreck


Proverbs 17:12
      There is a force in nature that no one wants to confront: a mother whose baby has just been stolen. You can mess with me, but don’t try to mess with my kids. You will have a fight on your hands. There a few instincts that the LORD placed in us that is stronger than this one. And there are few animals that are scarier than a bear in this situation.
      But the writer of this proverb says that confronting this mother bear is better than confronting a fool who is going to do something stupid no matter what. As Forrest Gump stated, “Stupid is as stupid does.” Just as you can’t stop the bear, and you can’t reason with a bear, so it is with a fool. They just won’t be stopped. Their nature is to rebel against God’s authority.
      But before we get too proud, we all used to be fools. Before the Holy Spirit quickened us, we were just as lost as they are. We were spiritually stupid. We would argue our strange theology, even when its inconsistencies were obvious to everyone. Fools don’t care. They stick with what they know, even when faced with the facts.
      Sometimes you just have to move out of the way and let the fool stumble. So many spouses of alcoholics keep rescuing their drunk. Instead of letting them face the natural consequences and having the opportunity to learn from the pain of the fall, they stop the natural learning process. They learn the lesson, but the drunk doesn’t. Unfortunately, when the drunk finally learns the lesson, the whole family has been through so much pain that it is often very difficult to recover. If you know someone who is starting this cycle, help them let the drunk fall sooner rather than later. The longer the rescuing lasts, the slower the recovery process and the harder the fall.
      This applies to drugs and many other addictive behaviors like porn, gambling and rage. Make it painful sooner rather than later. If you are going to have to start over, better to do it sooner rather than later. Don’t be part of the train wreck. Unhook you car.